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Great Parents, Lousy Lovers

Ever feel like you are just managing your marriage and family life? When you get time alone with your spouse, do you spend it arranging the week’s schedule and talking about what needs to be done with the kids? When was the last time that you had a conversation with your spouse where you didn’t talk about the kids but invested in your relationship?

As parents it is so easy to have a kid-centric marriage. Our children are important but we our first priority should be our marriage. Think about it. What happens when we focus so much on the kids that we forget about our marriage? Our kids leave for college and we don’t really know who our spouse is anymore.

So how do we get out of this management lifestyle and truly thrive in our marriages? Hillary and I have been reading Gary Smalley and Ted Cunningham’s insightful book “Great Parents, Lousy Lovers.” In the book, Smalley and Cunningham explain that the best gift we can give our children is a healthy, thriving marriage. They go on to provide some helpful principles and tools to help parents focus on their marriage.

I dare you to pick up the book and read it as a couple. It is possible to be a great parent AND great lovers.