The 3 Big Questions for a Frantic Family
I am a Patrick Lencioni fanatic. Ever since I heard him speak at a Willow Creek Leadership Conference, I have been drawn to his ideas on management and organizational health like a shark to its prey (it’s Shark Week isn’t it). His ideas are simple yet profound. They are rooted in his experience as a management consultant. I have my Lencioni book row in my office and the spine colors even match well together.
When I saw the Lencioni, a father of four boys, wrote a book on restoring sanity to family life, I was immediately drawn to it. Lencioni has a masterful way of writing a story that tells how the main characters learn the main principles he wants the reader to understand. Then at the end of the book, he explains the principles in detail and shows how to apply them.
In this new book, Lencioni begins by telling the story of a family which is like many families in the United States. The parents are running from kid’s activity to kid’s activity with barely the time to relax, let alone strategize how to manage everything. One night the husband tells the wife that if he ran his business like their home was run, they would go out of business. This started a dialogue, heated at times, of how to take some powerful business principles and implement them at home. It revolutionized their family life and the their friends’ families that were brave enough to implement the same principles.
Hillary and I are determined to not fall into the frantic family lifestyle especially as our children grow older. I am always saddened by parents who say they are so busy with all the stuff going on in their lives. I want to reach in the deepest parts of their mind and tell them that they have control of their schedules. They are not slaves to them. This book gives the keys to regaining control of our families and our schedules. Even more important it helps us think through our family’s core values and vision. Hillary and I have put these principles into practice and though they are hard to implement, they are worth it.
For example, our family’s rallying cry right now is “simplifying our lives by making wise financial decisions and digging out of debt.” Now that we have one car for our family, I really want a motorcycle to ride to work. In the past we would save up for something like this, but when we run the decision through our rallying cry, purchasing a motorcycle doesn’t make sense.
Feel free to check out the book here.
And if you were wondering, here are the three big questions. Don’t dive too deep into them until you have read the book.
1. What makes our family unique?
2. What is our family’s most important priority-rallying cry-right now?
3. How will we use these answers and keep them alive?